Last Thursday was Induction Day at the United States Naval Academy.

Before sunrise, I dropped my oldest daughter, Hannah, at the Alumni Center on the Navy Yard, where hundreds of young men and women stood with their families in that familiar mixture of excitement, determination, and quiet apprehension. Within minutes they boarded buses bound for Bancroft Hall and Plebe Summer. The doors closed, the buses pulled away, and just like that, eighteen years disappeared down the road.

I wouldn't see Hannah again until six o'clock that evening.

When she marched back onto Stribling Walk, she no longer looked like the young woman I had hugged goodbye that morning. Dressed in Navy whites, a blue-striped Dixie cup perched on her head and a canteen hanging from her webbed belt, she already carried herself differently—exhausted, focused, pensive. The detailers had spent the day reminding every Plebe that perfection was expected and failure would be corrected loudly. Yet beneath the fatigue was something unmistakable: resolve. She had worked for this moment for years, and now she belonged to it.

Pride swelled in my chest until it almost hurt. But alongside it came an emotion I hadn't expected. For the first time in her life, Hannah was no longer under the protective wing of her parents. She had joined the United States Navy, and they were responsible for her now. I imagine every parent eventually experiences this moment—whether a child leaves for college, gets married, starts a career, or raises a hand to take an oath. No matter when it arrives, I doubt anyone is truly prepared for the impact. Protecting my children has been my highest calling for eighteen years, and I'm not particularly comfortable sharing the job.

It made me think back to my own departure. The summer I pointed our family van south toward Auburn University, packed with little more than a few boxes and the confidence only an eighteen-year-old can possess. My mother shared the fourteen-hour drive, and then, after orientation, she flew home. Months would pass before I reversed the trip solo and saw my family again at Thanksgiving.

At the time, I didn't appreciate what that goodbye cost my parents. Now I do.

The experience also brought me back to one of the central lessons from my inspirational leadership keynote: time is everything.

When I said yes to the undercover operation that eventually exposed Robert Hanssen, I didn't simply accept risk—I committed something far more valuable: my time. I had just married my wife, Juliana, who had left Germany to build a new life with me. We were settling into a tiny apartment on Capitol Hill and beginning our future together when the FBI handed me an assignment that would consume nearly every waking hour. Overnight, the case became my life.

That is the part of leadership we rarely discuss. Every important decision costs time, and time is the only currency that never replenishes itself. We like to say we're spending time, but I don't think that's accurate. We're either investing it or wasting it. Every meeting, every late night at the office, every family dinner we miss is an investment in something we've decided matters.

Time is Everything.

The question is whether we're investing wisely. If someone audited your calendar today, would it reflect what you claim is most important? Leadership isn't measured only by the decisions you make; it's measured by what you decide is worthy of your finite time. Too much invested in work always comes from somewhere else.

Standing on that parade field, I realized something I hadn't fully seen before. The greatest investment I have ever made wasn't catching a spy or writing bestselling books or starting companies. It was every bedtime story, every track meet, every difficult conversation, every family dinner, every lesson about integrity, courage, kindness, and accountability…It was every moment that seemed ordinary while it was happening. Those deposits compound quietly over years, and eventually they become character.

Watching my oldest daughter begin this extraordinary journey, I found myself wondering whether I had taught her enough. Were there lessons I forgot? Conversations I should have had? Every parent asks those questions, and in the end, there is only one answer: trust the investment. Trust that the values learned around the dinner table will carry them through their hardest days. Trust that the character built at home will reveal itself when no parent is there to help. Trust that they will become more than you ever imagined.

There is no greater joy for a father than watching his children succeed. Greater still is watching them surpass you. I suppose I am a “Girl Dad".”

As Hannah disappeared back into formation, I realized my job hadn't ended. It had changed. My role was no longer to hold her hand but to cheer from the sidelines as she built a life larger than the one I could have built for her. Time keeps moving whether we're ready or not. The only question is whether we've invested it in what matters most.

Time matters just as much in cybersecurity as it does in leadership. The difference is that in cybersecurity, you rarely realize how much time has passed until the damage has already been done.

This week, healthcare AI company Xsolis disclosed that a phishing attack ultimately exposed the personal and medical information of nearly 1.4 million people. According to published reports, the compromised data included names, addresses, Social Security numbers, health insurance information, and details about patients’ medical treatment. For many of those victims, the consequences will continue long after the employee who clicked the original email has forgotten doing so.

Cybersecurity professionals often focus on the moment of compromise. Criminals think much further ahead. They know stolen identities can be sold, traded, and exploited for years. A single credential today may become tax fraud next spring, medical identity theft the following year, or the missing piece in a larger attack against an entirely different organization.

The lesson mirrors this week’s title story. Long before a crisis arrives, we are investing in the outcome. Security awareness training, phishing-resistant authentication, least privilege, and rapid reporting all feel routine when nothing is happening. They become priceless the moment something does.

One click rarely creates a breach. Hundreds of small decisions made long before that click determine whether it becomes a headline.

Cybercriminals understand something psychologists have known for decades: people make their worst decisions when they feel rushed.

Whether it’s a package that can’t be delivered, a bank account that’s supposedly locked, an urgent request from your CEO, or a text demanding immediate payment, every successful scam begins by stealing your sense of time. The attacker wants you reacting instead of thinking.

So give yourself one simple rule: Buy yourself ten minutes.

Close the email. Ignore the text. Open your banking app directly instead of tapping the link. Type the website into your browser yourself. Call the company using a number you already know is legitimate. Ask someone else to look at the message before you respond.

Those ten minutes won’t matter ninety-nine times out of a hundred.

The hundredth time may save your identity, your company, or your career.

Sometimes the most important security tool isn’t artificial intelligence or sophisticated software. It’s patience.

The world has changed. Cybercriminals, foreign intelligence services, scammers, and AI-powered fraudsters are no longer targeting only governments and Fortune 500 companies. They are targeting all of us.

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Artificial intelligence is often sold as a way to save time. This week, I suggest using it for something far more valuable: Ask it where your time is actually going.

Export your calendar or simply list how you spent the past week. Include work meetings, family commitments, workouts, travel, reading, volunteer activities, administrative tasks, and yes, even the endless scrolling that somehow consumes thirty minutes at a time.

Then steal this prompt:

The answer may surprise you.

Most of us know what matters. We simply haven’t compared those priorities to where our hours actually go.

Your calendar never lies.

Over the past several months, I’ve had the privilege of speaking with thousands of leaders across the country about espionage, cybercrime, artificial intelligence, and what it means to lead when the stakes are high.

Whether I’m standing on a conference stage, speaking with CISOs, or sharing the Hanssen story with executives trying to prepare for tomorrow’s threats, the message has remained remarkably consistent. Technology changes. Human nature does not. The organizations that prevail are almost always the ones that invested in preparation long before they needed it.

I’m putting together a short reel from this spring’s speaking tour that captures some of those moments. I hope you’ll enjoy a look behind the scenes, and if your organization is planning a leadership meeting, cybersecurity summit, or annual conference, I’d love the opportunity to bring these lessons to your audience.

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~ Eric

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